Tears of Joy and Loss ~ Have a Child Leaving You? Read!

By Back to School, Beliefs, Faith, Grace, Love, Love God, Mom, Prayer, Ride of Your Life, Self Help Christian, Soul

Andrew moved to California in March for his career with excitement and joy. Brigette just left this past Wednesday for her last year of college finishing her mining degree and now my little one, Olivia, all of 5′ 11″  is leaving for her first year of college in Florida. Tears of joy and loss come over me. Andrew, Brigette and Olivia I love you all and thank God for you everyday.  I will work on letting you go. (wink, happy face, sad face)

I wrote this for all the mom’s out there letting their children go, whether it is kindergarten, high school, college or off to start an independent life, this is for you……………………


Being a mother is such a gift from God. The intense nature of mothering, we nurture, protect, pray and release them different ways on their journey. When it is time to release them; even if that means seeing them walk into kindergarten a little bit of independence is given to them. We get a glimpse of release but they come back, this slow release happens over and over throughout the years. When they go off to college or to live on their own is a crucial time in a mother’s life……….. as they move from total dependence to independence. The battle and fight begins in our head trying to grasp the conflicting forces and ever-changing alterations in roles we are entering in. What develops is the true understanding of release and the changes with the mother-child dynamic from that moment on.

Letting go is something I feel is very difficult for a mother, we were brought into this world to nurture, to be a caregiver, to teach and that even means encouraging them to be independent.   Enable your child to be independent is the long term goal and guiding them to realize their own potential in this world. The heart is full of joy of accomplishments and then full of loss, “letting go.” The transition feels like watching a tree branch sway back and forth, the pendulum sways, from joy to loss, excitement for them and scared for what they may face, happy for their wide eyed dreams, sad for the trials they may endure. This motherhood feeling continues no matter what age or stage we are in. These feelings of joy and loss are an essential part of this evolution.  Embrace your faith and depend on God and through his grace we can always move forward in this transition, remembering they are not our children to begin with. Tears of joy and loss continues.

Great verse for all the moms to remember as they walk in faith letting their children go.

“He is the Rock, his works are perfect, and all his ways are just. A faithful God who does no wrong, upright and just is he”  Deuteronomy 32:4

Great verse to share with your children as they go off.

“My child, never forget the things I have taught you. Store my commands in your heart. If you do this, you will live many years, and your life will be satisfying. Never let loyalty and kindness leave you! Tie them around your neck as a reminder. Write them deep within your heart. Then you will find favor with both God and people, and you will earn a good reputation.”

Proverbs 3:1-4

5 Second Conversation

By Beliefs, Faith, Grace, Gratitude, Love, Love God, Prayer, Ride of Your Life, Self Help Christian, Soul

I hung up the phone today after only a 5 second conversation and said, “Thank you God”. Do you ever get that feeling after talking to someone even for a few seconds that you are so grateful that they are in your life? I felt that way after the short talk with my husband. Now, I am not telling you it is always that way and we have bumps and blow outs on our ride in marriage, but those blow outs are what makes the gratitude so powerful and the feeling so true. You might think, wow, what did he say in that 5 second conversation? If you know me you might think, he said, he loved her and that she was a great wife and mother and hung up. No, he shared that he was on his way to another appointment and that his mother would be joining us for our nephew’s, her grandson’s graduation party. Just communication, yes, that simple.
Have a heart of gratitude no matter what you have in life, it is that simple to have a thought come across your mind after any conversation. Gratitude is a practice we should walk in.
In honor of father’s day I wanted to share how grateful I am for a father’s love, husband’s love and the love of our Heavenly Father. Whatever your journey may be with your husband, your father or a father figure, God gives us the most important Fatherly love, His eternal love on this earth. We need to remember, He wants us to communicate with him on all thoughts that come in our mind. If we do this and become grateful for the little things imagine the grace of the big things that may come our way.
Communication is the key and I miss my conversations with my dad, but I am so ever grateful for the loved he shared with me, my mom and all my siblings. Missing him reminds me how grateful I am to have a husband that has been a beautiful loving father to our children and I am grateful for even a 5 second conversation. I remind myself never to take anytime for granted and to think gratitude.
Our words are so powerful, be aware of your words and try not to think too deeply into others people’s words. We get so caught up with our wants and needs we try to change the meaning of the conversation, just be in the moment. Stop to ponder the gratitude in all we have, as simple as a communication.

Happy Father’s day to all the men that are fathers or share a role as a father, thank you for your love!

In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. 1 Thessalonians 5:18

Roadside Assistance Needed!

By Beliefs, Faith, Grace, Gratitude, Love, Love God, Prayer, Ride of Your Life, Self Help Christian, Soul, When Bad Things Happen

During our ride in life we often get confused, which way to go and get frustrated when we have a blow out or a wrong turn. As I mention, over and over again when the ride goes wrong we go to our belief system with in our mind and heart.  Sometimes that is not the right system to lean on. We need to revamp and rethink the thoughts and beliefs. Faith only becomes an outward reality when we hit these potholes on our ride. Now what? Discipline is the first word that comes to my mind, do you have the discipline to choose faith and have Christ’s presence in your life at all times? What does that look like? How do I do that?

What does that look like?  The discipline to stop get off your ride and sit in stillness with your thoughts and your beliefs, asking for God’s helper, the Holy Spirit, to be the roadside assistance we need.  When we take the time to reflect on the wrong turn or the surprise blow out, the beliefs and thoughts may become quite different with the power of the Holy Spirit. I think about Jesus’ words, “I have to leave you and my Father will give you another helper.” He is talking about the Holy Spirit. When the Holy Spirit resides in you, you know you can have victory at any and all levels, the Holy Spirit enables you to triumph over all sin, to guide you to the right path.

How do I do that?  Prayer, study his word, fellowship with other believers to attain a discipline. Learning to use your roadside assistance, the Holy Spirit.   He is always with you and will lead you to optimistic living and vibrant faith.

“I will ask the Father, and he will give you another helper who will be with you forever. That helper is the Spirit of Truth. The world cannot accept him, because it doesn’t see or know him. You know him, because he lives with you and will be in you.” John 14:16-17 NIV


Dear Heavenly Father,  I know that you have plans for me and sometimes the plans are not easy and they are challenging.  I pray to have the discipline to stop and listen to the helper you have provide to reside in me through you, Lord.  Give me the wisdom and knowledge to ask for assistance always.  In your precious name, of the risen Christ we pray.  Amen.

My God Surprise Today

By Faith, Fashion, Food For Thought, Grace, Gratitude, Learning From Others, Look Inside, Love, Love God, Prayer, Ride of Your Life, Self Help Christian, Soul

God Surprises are real!  God wants to give you a joyous life and we should expect God surprises everyday. During my ritual of my morning prayer I always ask God, “please show me my God surprise today,”  often I can run around and miss my surprise.    Yesterday my God surprise was a late night call with a friend  and she repeated kind words someone said about me.  I am always humbled by kind words and often think I am not worthy.   So this morning my God surprise wasn’t really a surprise but an honor to be featured on a new blog “Living It Up”   Check it out and sign up to follow!  Great place to put your prayer request, get feed by God’s word and enjoy living it up with many others.  I am grateful and ever so blessed.

You will be blessed when you come in and blessed when you go out   Deut. 28:6